Dating? You Need a Plan!

Have you ever seen a flyer or piece of paper in the wind being blown in one direction and then another? It helplessly goes whichever way the wind blows and cannot settle until the wind subsides. The flyer has little control over its journey and it is not allowed permanent rest until it lands and someone is able to sweep it up.

Well, when you don’t have a plan for dating you may essentially become like a flyer in the wind. However, unlike the flyer, you can choose to find rest, and where you may find it. The key to doing so is to date with intention, and to do that, you must have a dating plan.

What is a dating plan? It consists of several things, but it is overwhelmingly driven by your mindset which is the foundation of everything you do, and it sets the tone for how you carry those things. I cover the dating plan and mindset this in detail in my new book, Dating with Class and Elegance. I also walk you through all the things you need to think about when navigating the dating arena. I guide you to think things through, and capture your thoughts so by the end you have your plan.

Back to mindset, unresolved emotional wounds from previous relationships, childhood experiences, or personal struggles can unknowingly shape our behaviors and choices in dating. Without healing, you might find yourself repeating patterns, attracting unhealthy relationships, or struggling with emotional triggers.

I would like to share an example that I saw play out on a popular dating show. A young woman was passed over by a man who seemed to be a pretty good guy. He felt that she was shorter than what he would feel comfortable with. He was very gentle in his explanation and even complimented her looks and her dress.

She then went on to be very condescending and quite frankly, nasty to the next two potential men who presented themselves. One of them expressed that she was someone that he would approach and want to know better.

The point here: being hurt from the past encounter caused her to take her hurt and anger out on two men who had nothing to do with the past encounter. In the process of doing so, she ran away the one who could have been the one for her.

I have seen the above scenario played out many times in a myriad of ways. This behavior is something that may keep you single.

Here, at Always Classy and Elegant, we are about personal development toward class and elegance, this applies to dating as well. That begins with taking accountability for yourself, your actions and your life. Even class and elegance begin with your mindset and removing any blocks that are preventing you from taking on a new way of thinking. Healing is the first step toward removing those blocks.

If you find you that you could use some additional help toward establishing a new mindset or other things related to etiquette, class and elegance, you can reach out to me for coaching at: https://www.alwaysclassyelegant.org/.

Until next time, stay classy and elegant!