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Party and Networking Etiquette

It all begins with an idea.

With the holidays around the corner, perhaps you are already planning your outfits and accessories for the upcoming parties and celebrations. Of course, looks are a significant part of making a great first impression. But what about conversation and networking? Maybe you are a natural when it comes to small talk with strangers, but if the thought throws you into a mild panic attack, relax because I have some tips to help you talk your way through these social events.

First, understand that networking is about creating relationships. Do not expect to leave the initial interaction with future plans. Do however be prepared to step out of your comfort zone and put others first.

Networking at parties requires a strategic approach to create connections while maintaining an air of sophistication. You can begin by researching the guest list and identifying key individuals you wish to engage with. Find out what their hobbies or interests are - you can look them up on social media platforms such as LinkedIn and tailor your conversation around those topics.

Prepare thoughtful questions and comments that encourage meaningful dialogue. Practice active listening to foster rapport. Make sure you have your business card on hand in printed and digital formats.

Maintaining the connection extends beyond the holiday season. Follow up with new contacts after the event, expressing gratitude for the conversation. Keep the connection alive by periodically keeping in touch. For example, you see an article that might interest them, send them a message with the link to the article.

Dress elegantly to leave a lasting impression yet remain classic and refined. Make sure your outfit aligns with the event and dress code. Upscale your attire with the highest quality items you can afford. Pay attention to every detail and accessory and upscale those as well. For example, if hosiery is required, try Woolford or Falke over brands you can pick up at your local grocery store. There is a difference in appearance and endurance when it comes quality items, down to the simple things like hosiery.

Most importantly, be sure to wear a smile and show your confidence! As a certified international etiquette consultant, I am here to help if you need additional assistance with a specific event, or general etiquette training.

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Elegantly Dealing with Difficult People

It all begins with an idea.

In life, we all encounter people who challenge our patience, are rude or intentionally seek to offend us. While it can be tempting to react, there’s power in handling difficult situations with grace and calm. Elegance in difficult conversations can make a lasting impression—not only on others but also on ourselves. Here are three tips to keep in mind:

Stay Calm and Centered: When faced with negativity, take a deep breath before responding. Ground yourself, maintain eye contact, and don’t let emotions drive your reaction. Staying calm disarms tension and often prevents a situation from escalating.

Listen with Empathy: Often, difficult people are dealing with unseen struggles. By listening attentively, you might uncover reasons behind their behavior. Approach the conversation with empathy, asking questions to show that you’re genuinely interested in understanding their point of view.

Have Prepared Responses: Taking a cue from media training, if you know someone will make rude inquiries or statements, prepare a classy response in advance. For example, a relative is known to make comments about the cost of your handbag in comparison to your contribution to a family meal. You may respond with something like “It’s nice to know you recognize quality and good taste when you see it.” You can leave it there or if you feel the need to turn the table with ‘classy shade” you might add, “I’m sure you agree good taste goes beyond a mere handbag and applies to conversation as well.”

Or perhaps you are cornered by someone you don’t necessarily care for. The graceful behavior would be to look past your dislikes and focus on their positive qualities. Be kind and patient, giving your best effort to treat them as you would want them to treat you.

The point here is to anticipate these situations and have a plan as to how you will respond or act.

Set Boundaries Politely: It’s essential to set boundaries without being confrontational. Kindly but firmly let the person know what’s acceptable. You can express this with phrases like, “I value our conversation, but let’s keep it respectful.” Setting boundaries shows you’re willing to engage, but only in a healthy, respectful way.

Grace under pressure isn’t easy, but with practice, it can become second nature. Handling conflict with elegance not only preserves your peace but often inspires those around you to do the same.

I will have a video out later this week that breaks down the touchpoints mentioned above.

Head over to my YouTube video Dealing With Difficult People where give you media training tips to handle such situations.

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Classy Women Plan Ahead

It all begins with an idea.

Classy Women Plan Ahead: The Art of Thoughtful Living

This past Sunday, as I was cleaning up my kitchen after cooking what was almost a thanksgiving dinner. I had a moment when I thought about leaving a few dishes in the sink for the next day. Then I thought about how I would feel Monday morning when I walked into my kitchen and saw them - it would not have set the fresh, positive tone for my day; not to mention it is quite inelegant. I like walking into a pristine, well arranged kitchen. I thought about how I would feel: happy, energized, elegant and prepared to have a great day! Which lead to the thought, how I end Sunday night sets the tone for Monday, and in fact the rest of the week. This lead me to thinking about the power of intentionality and planning, and the benefits we gain by making these regular practices. We can actually plan the tone and success of our lives.

Undeniably, there’s something appealing about the poised, well-prepared woman. If you think about it, the most classy women embody a unique blend of grace and practicality. They understand that planning ahead not only enhances their lives but also radiates confidence and sophistication. Therefore, I think this is the optimal time to begin a series on planning.

The Power of Planning

Planning isn't just about organizing your schedule or managing tasks. It shows you have a mindset rooted in foresight and being deliberate. As a classy woman, I am sure you appreciate that when you are prepared you can navigate life's complexities with ease. Whether it's planning for a career milestone, a social event, or even a personal project, forward-thinking fosters an environment where you can thrive.

Benefits of Planning Ahead

  1. Reduces Stress: Knowing what lies ahead alleviates anxiety. A well-laid plan can turn potential chaos into calm, enabling you to handle challenges with poise.

  2. Enhances Decision-Making: With a clear roadmap, decision-making becomes more straightforward. You can weigh options thoughtfully, ensuring your choices align with your goals.

  3. Inspires Confidence: When you're prepared, you naturally exude elegance. This self-assuredness influences not just personal endeavors but also professional interactions and relationships.

  4. Creates Opportunities: Planning often opens doors. By anticipating future needs or opportunities, as a classy woman you position yourself to seize moments that others may overlook.

Strategies for Effective Planning

  • Set Clear Goals: Whether short-term or long-term, having specific objectives provides direction and motivation.

  • Prioritize: Not all tasks hold equal importance. Classy women know how to identify what's urgent versus what's important, ensuring they focus on what truly matters.

  • Embrace Flexibility: While planning is crucial, it's equally important to remain adaptable. Life is unpredictable, and the ability to pivot can lead to unexpected joys.

  • Maintain Balance: A well-rounded life requires a balance of work, relationships, and personal time. Classy women ensure their plans reflect this equilibrium.

Ultimately, the most classy women stand out because of their ability to foresee, prepare, and adapt, which not only enriches their own lives but also inspires those around them. By embracing thoughtful living, you can show everyone that elegance isn't just appearance, but in your approach to life. So, be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it.

Next week, we look into planning for the holiday season. Specifically, how to handle difficult people or unpleasant situations class and elegance.

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